The questionnaires presented here should help you analyze:
- your expectations of others
- what you are willing to, and able to, offer others
- any additional conditions
with a view to establishing relationships of various kinds, such as, for example: of friendship, marriage, erotic, economic, artistic, cultural, etc.
The following questionnaires are provided, one for each person, known or hypothetical, called “person X,” with whom you consider establishing a relationship of any kind:
- a questionnaire in which your expectations and dispositions toward Person X are analyzed;
- a questionnaire in which the expectations and dispositions of person X, as perceived by you, are analyzed.
It is important that expectations and dispositions, both yours and Person X’s, are analyzed in terms of needs (primary or secondary).
Filling out (real or imagined) questionnaires could shed light on inconsistencies and incompatibilities between both your expectations and dispositions and the other’s expectations and dispositions. This could facilitate changes in social strategies (such as, for example, giving up establishing relationships with certain people) or bring out conflicts between any of your needs, conflicts that cause their dissatisfaction.
Questionnaire about my expectations and dispositions toward person X
(ignore topics not relevant to the type of relationship being considered)
Theme (field, relational aspect or topic of inquiry)
| Theme (field, relational aspect or topic of inquiry) | What I expect to receive from X
(my needs that I expect X to be willing to, and able to, meet) |
What I am willing to give to X
(X’s needs that I am willing to, and able to, satisfy) |
Special and known conditions |
| Affectivity | |||
| Sincerity | |||
| Culture | |||
| Economic and financial situation | |||
| Generosity | |||
| Empathy | |||
| Esteem | |||
| Courage | |||
| Political ideas | |||
| Physical intimacy | |||
| Sexual relationships | |||
| Labor collaboration | |||
| Aggressiveness | |||
| Authority, hierarchy | |||
| Lifestyle and environmente | |||
| Social class | |||
| Sports | |||
| Tourism | |||
| Health | |||
| Religion | |||
| Physical and aesthetic characteristics | |||
| Moral values | |||
| Personality (introversion, extroversion, etc.) | |||
| Special skills (manual dexterity, musicality, foreign languages, creativity, etc.) | |||
| … |
Questionnaire about X’s expectations and dispositions toward me, how I perceive them
(ignore topics not relevant to the type of relationship being considered)
| Topic | What X expects to receive from me
(X’s needs that X expects me to be willing to, and able to, meet) |
What X is willing to give me (my needs that X is willing, and able, to meet) | Special and known conditions |
| (same topics as in the previous questionnaire) |
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